Matured Love Becomes Deep Respect For One Another

Swans Mate for Life – Symbolizing Our Human Ideal of Marriage

One of the first parts of a great wedding ceremony is  expressing the couple’s ideal of their marriage; what their intentions are.  How do they see their marriage, their vision of being together.  In other words, how do they see love between the two of them and their joined life.  This is a great contemplation and dialogue for any couple considering making this life long commitment.

As I reflect and contemplate marriages I admire, one particular characteristic comes to mind’s view; the respect each has for the other as a good, true human being.  This of course develops over years of marriage and many experiences, both positive and negative.  In my personal observances along with couples personal stories shared, it is the so called “not so good times”, getting through these times with honesty, integrity and humility, that develop deep respect for one another.  When one sees their partner “digging deep” to become a better person, after recognition of “missing the mark”, and their sincere willingness to move into and manifest a higher point of view and higher behavior, a deeper admiration  for the one they love continues to develop into true respect.

In my observation and reflection it is this” loving respect” that is what one can see in the togetherness of a couple who have been married for many years. That beautiful adoring way they still reach for each other in their touch, their voice, and their focused eye contact, even while dining out, or hand in hand walking into Home Depot.

Many say that marriage is hard work.  I have come to admire that marriage, a good marriage, is one of the most creative endeavors we humans can choose, if both in the marriage “consciously choose” to be responsible for their individual “creating” daily.

Why This Man? Why This Woman? Why This Partner? For Life!

Declare your lifetime love under our Santa Fe Sky!

Just passing on some reasons I have heard over the many years.

You really make me laugh.  Even when I don’t want to.

You are my best friend.  Really!

You just “get” me.

I love to watch how you live your life.  How you do what you love to do.

My heart is happy when I come home and see your car in the driveway.

You still “turn me on”….just looking at you.

You can just “tell” when I am not happy.

I so love the way you love and care for my children.

I am even happier than the dog when you walk in the door!

You loving me has helped me love myself.

I just can’t imaging living the rest of my life with anyone else.

You relentlessly tell me the truth even when I don’t want to hear it.

I’ve watched you “fall”.  I’ve watched you “get up”. And I have only come to love, respect and honor you in how you “do it” with so much “grace”!

You and only you just let me “be” my silly, playful, sometimes “not too pretty” self and do not judge me, and I love you for this.

I just love the way you “look” at and within me!

I love the way I just always love to touch you.

You always reach out for my hand and I love this about you.

I just smile inside during my day when I think of you.

Even when I am really, really angry or disappointed with you, I still love you deeply.

I “light up” when you walk in the door or I hear your voice on the phone.

You keep proving your love for me and I know I can really “test” you sometimes.

I find I am so  truly grateful for you in my life.

We are a really good team.

I love your mind and how you think.