The Spirituality of Marriage… “A True Marriage Is Caught not Taught.”

Love is playful, Love is honest, Love is respectful, Love just “IS”.

This is one of the most profound excerpts on marriage that was given to me to speak at a wedding. I wish I knew who to credit as authorship.

The act of marriage has many consequences, both social and personal.  Marriage requires “love”, a word we  often use with vagueness and sentimentality. We may assume that love is some rare and mystical event, when in fact it is our natural state of being.

So what do we mean by love?  When we love, we see things other people do not see. We see beneath the surface, to the qualities which make our beloved special and unique. To see with loving eyes, is to know inner beauty.  And to be loved is to be seen, and known, as we are known to no other.  One who loves us, gives us a unique gift; a piece of ourselves, but a piece that only they could give us.

The secret of love and marriage is similar to that of Spirituality itself.  It is the emergence of the larger self.  It is the finding of one’s life by losing it.  Such is the privilege of husband and wife ; to be each himself, herself and yet another, to face the world strong, with the courage of two.

To make this relationship work, therefore, takes more than love.  It takes trust, to know in your hearts that you want only the best for each other.  It takes dedication, to stay open to one another, to learn and grow, even when it is difficult to do so.  And it takes faith; to go forward together without knowing what the future holds for you both.  While love is our natural state of being, these other qualities are not as easy to come by.  They are not a destination, but a journey.

The true art of married life is in this; an inner journey.  It is a mutual enrichment, a give and take between two personalities, a mingling of two endowments, which diminishes neither, but enhances both.

A True Marriage is caught not taught.

 

 

Eloping to Santa Fe or Your Vow Renewal – “Just the Two of You”

So many choices for a fun intimate wedding in Santa Fe, when it is just the two of you!

Dress up, dress down, wear a wedding gown, wear jeans and cowboy boots, go shopping here and pick out your wedding outfits; whatever your heart desires.  You can even buy your wedding rings under the portal on the square where our Native American jewelers sell their fine pieces, or from many other unique jewelers we are graced to have here in Santa Fe. Your elopement or vow renewal in Santa Fe is the chance for you to just “be yourselves”.

All of our resort hotels offer small outside and inside locations for a small wedding. Some hotels have smaller rooms like a library.  Many times the B&B or the house or casita you are renting has a lovely garden.  Some of our galleries also offer their gardens for an elopement. And we have a lovely Botanical Garden.

With a fun drive up toward or to our ski basin, one can find their special spot. One of my favorites was a couple who wanted to get married at our Dog Park, where their dog would not need to be leashed.  Our Dog Park is quite large and has a spot with a great view of the city.  We have a Rose Park, a Federal Park, The Cross of the Martyrs Park, all lovely locations.  And of course for these locations there is no rental fee.

You will need two witnesses to sign the marriage license.  If you bring two of your special friends, it can add to your wedding celebration, and one can be your photographer, if you do not want a professional.  And if you do not have two witnesses, I can bring two for you with an extra fee for their time. At our resort hotels, hotel, and most B&B’s, two employees are always willing to sign as witnesses.

Something to consider, if you will be in Santa Fe for a few days or a week, is the timing of your wedding or vow renewal.  Some couples like to get married on their first or second day and have the rest of their stay be their honeymoon.  Others prefer to spend their first days getting ready for their wedding and shopping, being tourists, and have their wedding the day before they leave. Either choice has a different “flow” for your stay.

With so many choices, you may want to view the locations and referral pdf,  on this site, and or call me and we can talk more about what would be fun and meaningful for you.

It has been my experience over these 27 years of serving couples’ weddings and vow renewals, as their officiant here in Santa Fe, that their wedding ceremony, with 200 guests or no guests, is still created and graced with the same joy, reverence, fun and meaning. Always special! Always memorable!

 

Santa Fe’s Intimacy Will Serve You and Your Wedding

The colors and coolness of Fall make for a special wedding season.

Santa Fe is one of the most appreciated locations for a destination wedding or elopement. I have always believed that one of the unspoken reasons is It’s “intimacy”. Many couples have met here, become engaged here, have had memorable adventures while traveling through. One of the couple may  have spent precious moments of their lives growing up here and moving on, or coming for holidays with family and friends. What makes our city named The City Different, “intimate”?

I would say “she”, Santa Fe, “City of Faith”, reaches out to create a very personal relationship with each visitor and resident. We still look up to the tourquoise blue sky with awe, knowing even on the coldest of days it will bring a peaceful smile. Our Mountains are our refuge for a walk or climb, exercise for our dogs and ourselves, personal contemplation time, and closeness to our Creator through nature.  Nature continues to reveal her beauty and splendor to many atop our ski basin and the sense of flying” through her gifted “powder”. And rainbows; well, we still call/text our family and friends to “look up” and count our blessings. Our great St. Francis Cathedral, centered in our downtown, opens its doors to all, welcoming for a liturgy, an afternoon alone meditation or a Christmas community concert. On St. Francis’ sacred name-day the priest comes out to bless our pets! We are of many faiths and no faith, many cultures and chosen lifestyles, of economic and educational backgrounds and choices up and down the ladder. Our many and varied restaurants, coffee houses and lodging are a reflection of this diversity. You will find, upon investigation, that our wedding venues are just as unique and offer many style choices, historic and contemporary.

I guess you could label us “diverse proud”, even though we are still aware we can always do better in this area. We welcome our guests to come “fit” right in with us, and we want you to feel at home! We want your wedding whether large or just the two of you to have in its reality and memory the feeling of this “intimacy” which is one of the reasons why many of us just can’t think of another place we would prefer to live!