Matured Love Becomes Deep Respect For One Another

Swans Mate for Life – Symbolizing Our Human Ideal of Marriage

One of the first parts of a great wedding ceremony is  expressing the couple’s ideal of their marriage; what their intentions are.  How do they see their marriage, their vision of being together.  In other words, how do they see love between the two of them and their joined life.  This is a great contemplation and dialogue for any couple considering making this life long commitment.

As I reflect and contemplate marriages I admire, one particular characteristic comes to mind’s view; the respect each has for the other as a good, true human being.  This of course develops over years of marriage and many experiences, both positive and negative.  In my personal observances along with couples personal stories shared, it is the so called “not so good times”, getting through these times with honesty, integrity and humility, that develop deep respect for one another.  When one sees their partner “digging deep” to become a better person, after recognition of “missing the mark”, and their sincere willingness to move into and manifest a higher point of view and higher behavior, a deeper admiration  for the one they love continues to develop into true respect.

In my observation and reflection it is this” loving respect” that is what one can see in the togetherness of a couple who have been married for many years. That beautiful adoring way they still reach for each other in their touch, their voice, and their focused eye contact, even while dining out, or hand in hand walking into Home Depot.

Many say that marriage is hard work.  I have come to admire that marriage, a good marriage, is one of the most creative endeavors we humans can choose, if both in the marriage “consciously choose” to be responsible for their individual “creating” daily.

The Penthouse at The Loretto Inn & Spa- Perfect for Your Intimate Wedding Event

Wed, Dine, Party and Honeymoon all in one lovely environment in downtown Santa Fe!

View the photos below, and you can see that a lovely ceremony can be held in front of the patio doors, in front of the fireplace, or out on the patio with the wonderful view of the Santa Fe Mountains.  Then your dinner, catered by the hotel, can be a sit down in the dining area. I have had some light food and one dinner after a wedding ceremony, and found the food to be quite good. The hotel staff was quietly attentive, and was willing to quickly serve up a champagne toast for the “Irish Blessing ” at the end of the ceremony.

Not shown is the full kitchen and lovely bedroom upstairs from the kitchen. The bride can make her entrance from the bedroom spiral staircase into the dining room, and to the fireplace, or where more guests can be seated, in front of the patio doors. If you want a patio wedding, and I have seen it decorated quite beautifully, the bride can also enter from a staircase below.  I just officiated a wonderful wedding here with about 25 guests. Besides the dinner table you see, another was set up in the living room.

This is one of my favorite places to officiate  a small wedding because of its versatility and the wonderful views.  You will even hear the hourly bells from the St. Francis Cathedral not far away. If you call the hotel, ask for Evelyn and she will co-ordinate it all for you!